How to Set Goals for the New Year (+ actually ACHIEVE them)

How to Set Goals for the New Year (+ actually ACHIEVE them)


Hi everyone. Welcome back to Lavendaire. It’s Aileen. So new year is right around the corner and
that means it is goal setting season. I know that we all love to set goals
at the beginning of the year, but I also know that around April or May, we kind of fall off of our goals. And then by mid-year, we kind of forget about our goals altogether. So how do we actually achieve the goals
that we set for ourselves? Today I’m going to show you how to set goals, how to plan and prioritize your goals, how to take action towards your goals, and finally, how to actually follow through
with your goals consistently. Before I begin, make sure you subscribe to this channel for more videos on personal growth and lifestyle design. Just click it down below. And also: we are doing a giveaway today. So if you want to learn more about that, stick around to the end of the video. All right, let’s start with the first step which is: Envision. Before you even make a list of goals
that you want to achieve this year, you want to first start with a clear vision of
what you want for your life. Look into all the different areas of your life and envision your ideal scenario in each area. You want to look into your health, relationships, career, personal growth, spirituality, creativity, adventure, and any area that matters to you. Your vision is your ultimate goal for what
you want to achieve in this area of life. And it’s helpful to be super specific, because if you just focus on career goals for the year, your relationships might drop off and things like that. Then you want to ask yourself: What are the specific dreams or goals I want to achieve in this area of life by the end of the year? Do that for every single area that you
envisioned your life in. It should be pretty easy, because you have your vision and then you can break down, “Okay, what is realistic? What is doable within one year?” What I personally like to do lately is start with the feeling that I want to achieve, a feeling of
how I want to feel in that area. Say I want to feel glowy and fit and strong in health. Start with the feeling and then come up with the What’s and the How’s that
you’re going to achieve that feeling, because I realized that when we’re setting goals, what we really want is the feeling of how it feels
to have achieved that goal. So you can start with the feeling and then ask yourself, “Okay, what will help me get to that feeling?” Or if you prefer, you can start with the goal, but then you must break down:
“Why do I want to achieve this goal?” And ultimately: “What is the feeling that
I want to get once I achieve this goal?” Because what keeps you motivated is the Why, the reason you set this goal in the first place. That is super important and a lot of the Why
has to do with how it makes you feel. Here’s an example to illustrate the feeling. Say you have a goal this year to switch to another job, a higher paying job,
because you need more finances in your life. You want more money and that’s okay. So ultimately, the Why of finding a
higher paying job is money, but underneath that is because
you want a greater sense of financial stability and security. You want to able to feel safe. You want to be able to afford everything that you want,
without having to worry. So the feeling that you want to achieve is
that security, the safeness, then, not having to be anxious or worried about money. And lastly – this is really important – but you want to make sure that
your goals are super specific and are within your sphere of control. There are a lot of times where we set goals where a lot of the goal is outside of our control, and if things are outside of your control, then you don’t have that power. You give your power to someone else
or something outside of you. For example, if you’re starting a new YouTube channel, you might say, “I want to hit 10,000 subscribers
by the end of the year”. And that might be realistic or it might not be realistic. The truth is, there are so many things
outside of your sphere of control that it’s really hard for you to predict
whether or not you will hit that. You know, there’s so many external factors
that come into play. A better goal to set is: “I’m going to make
one video a week every week this year”. That is something that is completely within your control. If you set a goal like that, you’ll feel more empowered because
everything is in your control. And if you don’t reach that goal,
then it really is all on you. Moving onto the second step: Plan. So by now, you probably have a list of dreams and goals related to each area of your life
and it might look overwhelming. Now we’re going to prioritize what are
the most important goals that you will work on this year. Looking at your list of goals, you might already have an idea of which ones
are the most important to you. So, star those. But if you’re having trouble prioritizing and
picking which one to work on first, then one way to figure out which one is
the most important is to ask yourself: “What is the impact of this goal?” “If I were to achieve this goal,
how much would it positively impact my life?” Another way to decide which goal is important
is to ask yourself, “Which out of these goals is the scariest, the biggest,
and the most intimidating goal?” because goals that are scary are actually the goals
that will push us to grow the most. And that’s why they’re scary, because we have to get real uncomfortable and take some big risks to get there. By determining the impact of the goal, how much it’ll change your life – plus how scary the goal seems to you – that’s how you will know, which are the most important goals that
you should prioritize and do first. So now I’m going to share a way you can plan
and break down your goals, so that you know exactly what you should be
working on at any given moment. I have something called the Action Planning Worksheet that I made for the Dream Life Series last year. I’ll add the download link to the worksheet
down below under “Resources”. Basically, you want to look at your goal as
an upside-down triangle. At the top there’s your main dream or goal
that you want to achieve. And then under that, it says your 90 day goal. So you want to ask yourself,
“Okay, what is my goal in the next 90 days? What points do I want to reach in three months?” Then you have to brainstorm what steps you would have to take to reach that 90 day goal. And it doesn’t have to be chronological. You can think of what steps you might have
to take in order to get there. Then after you finish brainstorming
to the best of your ability, you then prioritize and star the three
most important tasks. And then finally at the bottom of the triangle, you pick one task, one tiny little action to do today –
immediately, right now. So, this is a way to break down your goals
and plan how to make it happen. And if you do decide to do this worksheet, then I want to know: What is your 90 day goal? Write it in the comment section down below. And if you want, you can also put the one task that you have to do today, the next step. Aside from this action planning process, I also like to plan quarterly and monthly goals. I use the Artist of Life Workbook that I created to plan at those quarterly and monthly goals. And in this book, you also have quarterly
and monthly reviews. So each month or each quarter you set your goals, and then you do that action planning
system to break down all the steps you think you have to take. And then boil it down into the
next step you should take. The key is to take that step as soon as you can, because you want to get the momentum going. So, that leads me to step three: Take action. It is so, so important to take action
as soon as possible, as soon as today – right now. And that is because you want to get the ball rolling, because once you take the first step, you’re going to be motivated to take the second step and the third step and the fourth step. And then the more steps you take,
the faster the ball rolls down. Going back to what I said earlier about making sure that your goals are within your sphere of control, the present moment, the “now” in front of us is the only moment that we can control. So you can only take your action right now. If you wait until a future point, it’s going to be in your mind like, “Oh, I’m going to do it tomorrow.
I’m going to do it tomorrow.” It’s always going to live in the future, and then you’re going to procrastinate, and then “tomorrow” will be two months later. So always remember that your power is in the now, and that’s the main thing you want to keep in mind if you want to keep executing your goals. The next tip I have for you on following
through your goals is to: Keep the promises you make to yourself. Too often, we make promises to ourselves and
we break those promises. You say, “I’m going to start a diet tomorrow.” And then tomorrow comes and then you’re like, “Oh, maybe I won’t. Maybe I’ll do it another day.” And what that does is, you lose trust with yourself and when you lose trust with yourself, your self-esteem goes down because
you don’t even believe yourself. Making promises and keeping promises is not easy. Knowing that, you should only make the promises
that you know you can keep. So start small: Make small promises to yourself and then follow through on those small promises. Once you can get the hang of like, “Okay, I believe in myself, I’m following through
with what I promised to myself,” then you can make bigger promises. But really, it’s all about keeping that personal integrity and making sure that you trust what you say, because if you don’t trust your own promises, then you can just make goals all day
and not do anything about it. The next step to help you follow through and
execute your goals is to ask yourself: “What is the daily action that I want to commit to?” So, if your goal is to write a book, then your daily action is to sit down and write. If your goal has a lot of different types of actions, then just tell yourself the daily action is
to sit down for a chunk of time. Maybe it’s one or two hours a day
to work on that project, whatever it may be, whether you’re researching or going out,
meeting people or whatever. You want to commit to something daily, even if it’s just a tiny action, because it’s so much better to work consistently daily than it is to work on your projects sporadically. Because if you work on it one week and then skip a few weeks and then work on it, it’s going to be hard to build up momentum. The advanced version of this daily
action commitment is to tie that daily action with some sort of reward. So what is something that you love to do
that you do every single day? It could be having your coffee or
eating dinner or watching Netflix. So you want to make a promise to yourself, tie your action with that reward. Say “I will not allow myself to have coffee
until I meditate,” or “I will not allow myself to watch Netflix until I’ve given my two hours of working
on this project or this goal.” That is a way to play a game with yourself to be able to keep the promises you make to yourself
because there’s that reward. Another thing that’s really helpful is to
track your progress. If you’re doing a daily action, then have a calendar where you can mark off each day. In the Artist of Life Workbook, I have a habit tracker. So if you’re tracking habits you cross it off. Or if you’re doing something that’s weekly and not daily, then I have the Consistency worksheets
that I will also include down below, where you can track your progress week to week. So if you’re working towards a goal, you want to be able to kind of track and celebrate the milestones that you’re hitting
as you get to that goal, because it is worth celebrating. It really doesn’t matter whether you do this
daily, weekly, or monthly. You just want a system of tracking your progress and checking in on how you’re doing
towards your goals. Lastly, if you really want to be motivated
to achieve your goals, then accountability is the answer. You want to keep yourself accountable, and tracking yourself daily,
that’s a way to keep yourself accountable. But I’m also talking about social accountability, so getting other people involved, whether you’re posting it on social media, announcing your goals publicly, or announcing your goals to your friends or your family, and actually making a deal with a person in your life to keep you accountable to work towards that goal. Maybe you want to make a bet like, “I’ll pay you $100 if I don’t reach this goal,” and then you’re going to be more motivated to reach it. If you’re looking for an accountability buddy, someone that you can work with to support and encourage each other to reach your goals, then I recommend our Facebook group
or our Vibely club. We have a Lavendaire Lifestyle Community
on Facebook where we have 10,000+ members. And then we also have this new app called Vibely. I’ll link it down below, but basically, it’s an app to facilitate connection and
meetups with other Lavi Loves. Once you join, you get connected to
Lavi Loves in your area. And just today we had the first meetup in
New York, and I am so happy about it. It’s so amazing to see you guys connect in person. Everyone brought their Artist of Life Workbooks and I thought that was really, really special. There are people out there who also want to
achieve their goals like you do, and we can all work together to make those happen. I hope you liked my tips on goal setting for the new year. This whole system is baked into the
Artist of Life Workbook that I created, which I’ll link below, and also link those free
worksheets down below as well. And now I’m going to talk about the giveaway
that we are doing on Instagram. Thanksgiving is around the corner, so this is our gratitude giveaway as
a thank you to you guys, just for being here, just being part of
this amazing community. We’re going to gift three Artist of Life Workbooks. You can choose your color –
it comes in lavender and gray – and it’s going to be on the @shoplavendaire
Instagram account. So I’ll link that post. All you have to do is follow our Instagram
at @lavendaire and @shoplavendaire. Comment on that post, following the prompt,
and then tag a friend. And that’s it! I wish you the best in the giveaway. Thank you for watching, and get ready for new year videos coming
because they are coming. I am so prepared with so much new year content, but in the meantime, if you want to watch other videos, I highly recommend you watch
the How to Build Habits That Stick video, because a lot of you probably want to build
good habits in 2020, so I’ll link that here and down below. I love you so much. Bye!

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  1. Thank you for this video really helpful and inspiring. Will you be doing any Black Friday sales on your products and program's?

  2. Thank you for the worksheet, Aileen! ^^ my main goal is to be able to read and speak Korean language. It’s been a goal since the start of 2019 but I wasn’t able to stick to it. 🙁

    With your worksheet though, it’s a great help!

    My 90-days goal is to be able to speak and read basics of Korean and the one important task that I have to do is to dedicate one hour per night to learn it. ^^

  3. I’ve been a big fan of you for 4 years (since I was 18 that was the most depressed time) and I finally got a workbook in 2020✨✨ I am so excited how my life is going on!!! Love you so much from Japan🇯🇵 🌸💕 You are sunshine ☀️

  4. Don’t trick yourself. Make your goals attainable. As Aileen mentioned, if it’s less in your control and more “out of your control” then you may want to reconsider.

    The WHY is crucial to sticking to your goals. Envisioning your highest self achieving a goal will definitely help.

    From a self love content creator, great video Aileen. Just in time for this new decade. 💜

  5. Wow I love your perspective about trusting yourself on your own promises! I’m so excited to start building that trust with myself.

  6. I've been waiting on this video since last month… thank you for inspiring me and changing my life this year. Hopefully next year is a more successful one for me.

  7. Just realized that the reason why my self esteem is super low is because I don't believe myself. I gotta take action and try to build trust with myself. Thank you for reminding me that 🙂

  8. This is totally my jam since my entire channel is focused on goal setting and personal development! Thanks for the great content as always!

  9. The impact of the goal is very interesting, to be debt free. I know what the opportunity costs are, it will be going less on holiday, not buy the camera I was saving for and having less free time, all worth it as it gives me a good feeling- financial freedom = relieved.

  10. Thanks for this video Aileen! I've been in a bit of a slump on personal growth/goal setting/life improvement, but this video has certainly given me a path to growing. I appreciate it so much. <3

  11. SO ready to make POSITIVE changes in my life, remain consistent and FINALLY see some progress in my life. Thank you, Aileen ❤️

  12. I loved your thoughts about setting realistic goals. Something I've set for myself is to send one newsletter a week. Instead of setting up to reach 1000 email subscribers.

  13. Dream: Proactively work on my mental health.
    90-Day goal: Encourage an attitude of gratitude by writing down 500 specific things I am grateful for.

  14. Hey aileen, my name is pastashia I'm egyptian I would very much like to purchase the Daily planner and the artist of life work book but it's kind of expensive so I would like to ask your permession for using your model of daily planner I could read and understand everything from the photos so I hope you don't mind if use it without purchase, thank you♥️

  15. Here's something for all readers, a question that I found today at Pinterest: "What would you do if you knew that you would not fail?"

    This question is very strong and positive, because this video literally talks about the law of attraction. Because it literally starts with envision!

    Set a goal, and then ask yourself that question and see how truly motivated you are.

    Have a joyful life! 🌷

  16. Good video. My takeaway is to do small steps to build trust within yourself to do what you’ve planned to do. I’m great at planning. It’s the follow thru I struggle with.

  17. These are great tips. Especially the part about tracking your actions throughout the year to actually achieve the goal. I also encourage everyone to think about the goals they are setting. Do the goals bring you joy? I've set so many goals based on the stuff I should be doing as opposed to the things that actually felt good to me. I appreciate you discussing "understanding your why".

  18. Goal setting is no doubt so crucial.we should be sure about ourselves and take control of our lives .Thanx for this new year motivation.love ya Aileen♥

  19. I just start feeling so motivated when I see your videos. You should try the app "21 Days Challenge", this app just changed my life for better to keep me getting motivated and keep tracking with my daily gratitude thoughts!

    IOS: https://apps.apple.com/app/id1485458184

    Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.limatech.dayschallenge.dayschallenge&hl=en

  20. so greateful that you are so active here lovey, this comment before even watching the video hhhh ill watch it nd comment back

  21. I WANT TO HAVE YOU IN MY LIFE FOR THE REST OF NEW DECADES AS MY ELDER SIS…LOADS OF LOVE AILEEN! MAY U ACHIEVE ALL THE HAPPINESS …….

  22. The giveaway post is here → https://www.instagram.com/p/B5YUYtVnj1N/

    1. Follow @lavendaire & @shoplavendaire
    2. Follow the prompt on the post.
    3. Enter as many times as you want 🙂

  23. Hi Aileen. I learned so much from you! Thank you for the opportunity to improve my life and my future. Huggs from Italy❤️

  24. Progress is more important than perfection♥️ I'm working on building trust in myself by keeping the promises I make to myself while still having grace and patience with myself💕

  25. I want to break up with my boyfriend so that I can feel happier. 😐 in 90 days maybe I will have a script or something to say to him. 😨

  26. This video comes to my home when I really need that. Thank you so much for your help! In this fifth semester, I realize that I lost my track to achive my goals, and having no interest to doing anything. But I will try to keep my promise to work on my tasks everyday and give myself reward.

    Keep going, Aileen!

  27. been a lavielove for 2yrs…A MEDICAL STUDENT FROM INDIA..I HOPE 2020 will be d YEAR for me!! 2019 hs been d worst..Got out of 7yrs relationship…poor health! n careerwise…LOOKING FORWARD TO ARTIST OF LIFE WORKBOOK 2020💪🏻

  28. aileen, thank u so much for this video and this channel! it's truly helpful, even more helpful than my therapist 🤣 anyways, great video as always 💜

  29. Thank you Aileen, you're so motivated,
    last year when I watched your video, I was still a student, but now I've worked for over one year,
    everything changed, but it's just so sweet and so comfort that you're still here : )
    2019 is tough for me, but 2020 will be better right? <3 I'm excited,can‘t wait
    love your advice on goal setting , thank you ♪(・ω・)ノ
    loveu loveu loveu( important things should be repeated 3 times♪ <3 )

  30. I really enjoy whenever I watch your video. It's not just about your tips, I also improve my English by watching your video as well, your accent is really nice and makes me feel comfortable

  31. I want to tell that there is tow apps (keep notes & any. Do) you can find them on Google store
    They really helping in daily progress to set your tasks and follow them ♥️

  32. My goals for 2020:
    Have the perfect (for me an my BF) apartment
    Have a job I like and that’s well paid
    Spiritual grow
    Have an espresso machine
    More Happiness

  33. Another tip: don't start January. Start your goal next month instead. That way you can bypass the initial novelty "feeling" that wears off after a few days-weeks and focus on the goal itself. If something is important to you start now.

  34. I wanna create new habits and be more productive.. I’m a real procrastinator and it’s so annoying since I’m in my final year in high school. In my next 30 days I wanna get more fit and healthy, in 60 I wanna break my bad habits about studying and in 90 day I wanna be the best version of myself! I don’t need all 2020 year to accomplish that! I start today to make better tomorrow ✨💗 Ps thank you for your tips is so inspiring and motivating 💜

  35. This strengthens a lot of the things i already paracticed this year and it worked way better then simply setting goals and then forgeting about them

  36. That was amazing! 😍 thank you for all the tipa, can’t wait for the new year’s videos 😍 love you ❤️❤️

  37. Finally I found the reason I love this channel;because I love her voice and speaking style that's also why it makes me take action

  38. 💫 2020 💫 is almost here and I've realized that 2019 has changed me so much. I love this video because it'll help someone as chaotic as me with my goals.

    Lovely video Aileen! Thank you always 💖

  39. This is a very helpful video, aileen! thank you so much. I really wish that I could plan my 2020 better than 2019. I have tried to plan my 2019 but it didn't come out great because I keep breaking promises with myself. Please wish me luck for 2020, guys 💓 I also hope fellow Lavi Loves will have a great 2020 too 🤗💖

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