SHAME ATTACKING EXERCISES TO INCREASE YOUR CONFIDENCE

SHAME ATTACKING EXERCISES TO INCREASE YOUR CONFIDENCE


Have you ever said something
inappropriate or asked someone a really embarrassing a question? oh shit, I did! Hello book lovers, my name is Alin and
welcome to my youtube channel today I’m going to talk about how you can increase
confidence, improve self-esteem and have a little bit of fun in a book shop or
a library. I have to confess I am an introvert and I suffered from social
anxiety but last year I’ve been to a cognitive behavior therapist to try to
solve this issue and make changes in my life. During the therapy I had to try all
sorts of things to get out of my comfort zone and these things are called shame
attacks and I’ve tried to shame attacks by myself or with other people. But what
is a shame attack? It is an exercise for people with social anxiety or other type
of anxieties to deal with situations that they consider uncomfortable or
shameful without trying to come up with an explanation for their behaviour. To
give you a quick example this was an an experiment that I have done some time
ago. I went to Victoria’s Secret’s on Grafton Street in Dublin I went there I
searched for a shop assistant and when I found her I went to her and asked her
‘Excuse me do you have a bra my size?’ My expectation was to be refused because
I will llook like some kind of creep and to be kicked out of the shop. Instead she
was very professional. She measured my chest, told me my size and she told me what kind of bras they have in the shop, which
are on sale and which are not. So things didn’t go as I expected. But today I’m
going to talk to you about something different, my experience with bookshop assistants so let’s get started. this is a shame
attack that I’ve done last year I entered this bookshop in Dublin city
centre I went to the shop assistant there and ask him for a book
recommendation excuse me I said which book would you recommend the Kama Sutra
or the joy of sex he seemed a bit flustered with my question but he
answered immediately I’m not sure but I can check for you he asked me how do you
spell Kama Sutra to check it in the system and then he asked me if I want to
order the book because he was avoiding my question I asked it again but I put
it differently could you suggest which book is better the Kama Sutra or the joy
of sex because I don’t know which one should I choose he made a short pause
and then he answered I would go with the Kama Sutra because it was published by
the Oxford University Press I was completely satisfied with his
answer and I said to him I will think about it
and then I went out of the shop this time I was in Bucharest and I went to
one of the biggest book shops there and I was a bit terrified by the fact that
if I asked one of these questions the bookshop assistant that might show that
me or call the security to keep me out so this is what I did I went inside the
shop I wandered around for 10 minutes and then I said to myself I have to do
this so I went to the counter and asked the girl there hi there do you have any
books on farting and she immediately turned red and she stupefied by my
question and then I added to make the question a bit more serious I’m not
looking for any medical books on this topic but I’m more interested in fiction
or an essay on this topic and she answered no we don’t have any books on
this topic and put her head down not wanting to make eye contact with me
but also because she was more embarrassed by this question than I was
so I said thank you and I got out of the shop and I was very
proud of myself that I always able to do this this happened in a bookshop in Dublin I
went there and I had the person on the counter hi there I am looking for a sex
manual do you have any sex manuals and the girl there her face was like this
and she put her head down like she’s searching something on the computer and
then to make the situation even more embarrassing I said on a low voice and I
felt like she was trying to hide under that counter in the end she answered me
and said that we don’t have anything that you’re looking for and I said thank
you and I got out of the bookshop happy that nothing bad really happened
if you would like to try some of these shade medics you can go with the ones I
tried or choose other bodily functions or to do activities like masturbation
incest or bestiality so this is the end of my video and I hope you found this
information useful next week I will talk about an amazing book breach – they’re a
bit so don’t forget to hit that like button and subscribe to my channel to
see new videos every week see ya

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  1. Te asteptam cu drag la cluburile de carte in engleza Bucharest Urban Readers si Bucharest English Book Club (se discuta povestiri care se gasesc pe grupurile de Facebook cu aceleasi nume si nu depasesc 35 – 40 de pagini). Primul are si o pagina de Facebook, Bucharest Urban Readers – Book Club. Te rog mult, daca vrei, sa spui si pe canal ca exista aceste cluburi de carte, cred ca multa lume ar fi interesata. Tot la primul vin si vorbitori nativi de engleza.

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